Thursday, January 26, 2012

My Connections to Play



 Quotes about play-

Play is our brain's favorite way of learning.
-Diane Ackerman

Contemporary American author


The activities that are the easiest, cheapest, and most fun to do – such as singing, playing games, reading, storytelling, and just talking and listening – are also the best for child development.” 
                                                                           ~ Jerome Singer (professor, Yale University)



Photos of things representative of my play  

There was an apple tree in my backyard.  I spent a lot of time climbing the tree and sitting in the branches on warm summer days.


One of the places where I spent many hours playing was in a playhouse in my backyard.  Unfortunately, I could not find a photo of it so had to settle for this one, which does not do justice to the one I remember.  My playhouse was larger and had windows on either side that opened by swinging out.  By climbing out of the house through the windows, you could climb onto the roof.  This allowed for a totally different kind of play.  We spent almost as much time on the roof as we did inside the playhouse. 




My parents always provided many opportunities for play. 
I grew up in a neighborhood filled with many other children my age and I was the oldest of 5 so there was always someone to play with.  My parents always provided many opportunities for play.  While I did have some household chores that needed to be done before playing,  there was always plenty of time for play.  During the summer, I was outdoors from early morning until it was dark.  My parents provided a limited number of mostly open-ended toys for use indoors such as puzzles, building toys, dolls and games.  I did have a bike, but most outdoors toys were “found” items.  Limitations were made clear but there was almost no adult supervision or involvement.  My parents were never involved in playing with me other than playing board games.  Play was a major influence on my childhood, my life and how I view play. 

Play today is very different from the kind of play I enjoyed as a child.  Many children no longer play outdoors for a number of reasons.  Many children are also involved in after school activities or are in extended care after school leaving little time for play.  The widespread use of computers, electronics and television, by even very young children, has a negative impact on play.  When growing up, there were no electronic gadgets and watching television was limited in my family.  I never remember being bored.  We always found something to play.  It has been my experience that some children no longer know how to play or entertain themselves and are easily bored.  It seems unlikely that children today could experience the type of play that I enjoyed.  One of the things that I consider to be of great concern for children today is the lack of exposure to nature and the very limited opportunities for them to explore and discover the natural world.    

While play was important when I was a child, it is something that for the most part has been limited to that time period.  Play is something that I rarely engaged in as a teen and even less so as an adult.  There was the occasional badminton game or the playing of a card or board game at family gatherings, but I generally do not have the patience for this.  When I have free time, I prefer to spend it reading or gardening rather than playing.  I did consider play to be very important for my own children as they were growing up and did what I could to encourage play both indoors and outdoors.  Few children in the neighborhood, safety concerns  and an interest in playing organized sports did impact the type and amount of play my children engaged in.    

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Relationship Reflections




·      Importance of Relationships
Family relationships are at the heart (literally and figuratively) of our existence.  It is those first relationships that set the stage-for better or worse- for all future relationships.  I am very fortunate that I had loving, involved and dependable parents and grandparents.  It was those relationships that gave me the structure and security that still have a positive influence on me.  As a child I enjoyed close relationships with my brother and sisters. These relationships are the ones that I can rely on during challenging times.  These first relationships had an influence on my relationship with my own children.  Despite the fact that my grandparents all passed away quite some time ago, I still use what I learned from my relationships with them.   My relationship with my father is one that I truly value.  His patience, optimism, love of reading and the value he placed on education has had a major influence on my life.  He passed away recently, but I find comfort in what I learned from him and in trying to emulate him. 

“You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you. ”
-Frederick Buechner


  Current Relationships
  Factors that Contribute
   to Developing and Maintaining each Relationship
  Insights regarding challenges to developing and
  maintaining relationships

One of the most important people that I currently share a relationship with is my husband of 35 years.  I think that part of the reason this relationship has been successful for as long has it has been is the example that both my parents and his parents set for us as we were growing up.  This relationship is one of the greatest assets I have and is a continuous source of strength and comfort.  The factors that have been helpful in developing and maintaining this relationship are our shared values and religion.  These factors have provided a purpose and direction to our lives. Other important relationships are those that I have with my 4 children. I also continue to enjoy relationships with mom and my siblings.  Factors that are involved in developing and maintaining each of these relationships is being aware that each relationship will be different and that relationships change over time.  I have learned that any relationship is built on a foundation of acceptance, trust and respect. It is not always necessary to agree with the other person, but it is essential to always try to understand the other person’s perspective.

·      Special Characteristics
Relationships with friends are different from those with family.  Family is family after all and with that can come with a more casual and forgiving kind of relationship.  My friends are former and current peers and supervisors.  These are people that understand and share my passion for the field of early childhood education.  While relationships with friends and family are based on mutual respect and honesty, relationships with friends are more difficult to maintain.  The beliefs and values of friends may be very different from mine whereas my relationship with family are in part based on shared experience, upbringing and values.

·      Impact of my Relationships on my Work in Early Childhood Education
My relationships have made me more aware of the role that relationships play throughout our lives beginning with the earliest relationships. I am able to see how my relationships have had a lasting and positive impact on my life and so have made me passionate about ensuring that all young children can benefit from positive relationships in the early education setting.  Working in the field for many years has also made me more aware of the importance of family partnerships and how my own biases impact the relationships I have with parents and peers. 



Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others. ”
-Stephen R. Covey